Love Lockdown: Marked RESERVED!

Since I started this blog I get alot of feedback offline including questions about relationship advice. I’ve been asked:

What qualities do you think make a good man? Where are the good men? How come I can’t get a good man? 

And even more direct questions concerning my relationship. By no means am I an expert but I always advise women to stop thinking about the man. Why is the focus on him? What about the woman? Did we forget about self? Or I know, we have us all figured out. If we did I wouldn’t be compelled to write this.

Before getting into a relationship a woman should mark herself RESERVED while she goes through a period called “the season of singleness” This season is one of the most foundational periods in life where the woman needs to learn herself and develop a relationship with God. I hear women call themselves a Proverbs 31 Woman without understanding to be a woman like that you must set yourself aside for a KING. You cannot become so desperate for a man that you settle for anything less than a king. It is important that you are able to tell the difference between a companion and a divine mate that you relate to on a spiritual level.

No matter what has happened in the past your trust and hope for a man has to be in God. Trust him enough to bring you your king. If women aren’t patient enough to wait for a man from God, the alternative is a “good” man. There is a distinct difference between a good man and a godly man. A godly man is what makes a good husband. A godly man is one who has the capacity to love as Christ loved the church. If your prospective man doesn’t know God he doesn’t even have the capacity to love you. He only LIKES you for GOD is love. 

If you are single or in a relationship please follow these 7 relationship don’ts:

1. Don’t forget how valuable you are.

2. Don’t become so normal and easy to figure out. Anything too common diminishes in value. You are a prize so act like it!

3. Don’t bring old drama and history to the new relationship

4. Don’t let past relationships or life experiences rob you of your optimism where you don’t trust anyone

5. Don’t let others failed relationships diminish your faith

6. Don’t forget how powerful your words are. You will have what you say. If you keep saying men aint sh*t, you will attract aint sh*t men.

7. Don’t talk to everybody about your relationship. Words are seeds so be cautious of who you allow to speak into and over your life. It is dangerous to receive counsel from the wrong people. Words are seeds that last a long time and bring for fruit for years to come.

LIVE. LEARN. LAUGH. LOVE

Related posts:

1. Love Lockdown: Should you marry outside your faith?
2. Love Lockdown: How to Date and Stay Saved + GIVEAWAY!
3. Love Lockdown: Love & Remarriage