Love Lockdown: Should your mate be your best friend?

While reading some of the top news stories on CNN.com, I came across this article: Should your boyfriend be your best friend? The writer-Jessica is concerned that her boyfriend being her best friend may be problematic. She fears that sharing too much with him has placed her in isolation.

Just the other day I was lounging in bed with my boyfriend just talking and I had a moment… Six years of companionship brings precious moments, memories, and history that cannot be erased. He is my best friend that knows me better than anyone else. We share something so divine that I could not possibly try to explain it in a blog post.  Much like the writer Jessica, my boyfriend is my closest friend too…he knows everything about what goes on in my family, what goes on at work, what weird dreams woke me up in the middle of the night, my insecurities, and he puts up with my somewhat often “Jessica Simpson” moments and I am perfectly OK with that. I actually like it! I know it may not be typical for most couples but I believe that’s the problem in most relationships. A true friendship is never developed. In my opinion a relationship will not work if you’re not friends. A real friendship is the one of the foundations to a long lasting relationship. The old saying: “Friends make the best lovers” has proven itself to be true. Back in 2007, I sent my BF a gift for Valentine’s Day and the card read:

“Friends first, Lovers second, Soul mates always”

That was almost 3 years ago and the fact remains. Unlike the author, I have absolutely NO regrets that my boyfriend is my best friend. I don’t feel isolated and there are certain life issues I deal with and I know he is the only one that will truly understand. Even during our hiatus we were very close friends. I felt like I could tell him anything and I still do. After reading the article and reflecting on my life experiences I am totally in favor of boyfriends being your best friend.

Read the Full Article on CNN

So should a boy/girlfriend be your best friend?

Sidebar: After re-reading this post, I realize I really dis-like the word “boyfriend”. It sounds so elementary. Maybe it’s just me but in my mind it translates into: ‘the relationship is not serious”. If that’s the case fine. However, if you are in a committed relationship but unmarried past the 35ish age category, introducing someone as your boy/girlfriend should cease. It makes you sound juvenile. It reminds me of the scene in Sex and the City when Carrie and Big were apartment hunting…

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