Comments on: Not Bitching While Black

By: Total Life Prosperity Blog

Total Life Prosperity Blog — Fri, 21 May 2010 13:33:34 +0000

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By: Total Life Prosperity

Total Life Prosperity — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:11:02 +0000

Thanks!!! Since so many women deal with this issue you would think more seasoned professionals would mentor younger women and make them aware of the challenges they might face. Out of all the college prep, higher education/career development courses and seminars I’ve attended not one of them addressed this issue. Now that I’ve experienced it for myself I’m just striving for balance in this crazy corporate world! When I read the book I’ll be sure to post a blog about it.

By: Rikki

Rikki — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:46:21 +0000

Great post. There is for sure a fine line between being assertive and aggressive in the workplace and I find the balance very hard to maintain…and I usually end up on the passive side. Until I can wok on being assertive without being aggressive, I let my work speak for itself. But i am for sure going to read the book because i would LOVE to be more assertive.

By: Shaune

Shaune — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:12:55 +0000

Great post Naseya…and a dilemma that I think a lot of women (especially) black women face. Similar situations have happened to a sistahs on my job. Two very nice sistahs in fact who are damn good at their jobs have been told that they are too nice and not aggressive enough in meetings and don’t speak up. Translation=talk LOUD. No one says a word when the white male editors do it, but let one of us do it and I guarantee you it would be perceived differently. I think there has to be a good balance and you seem as though you have that.
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By: G.

G. — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 03:33:57 +0000

good post…exposing personal experiences of growth allows others free transparency into your life…usually leads to more followers…that beau of yours hit the head on the nail though *-)G.

By: Total Life Prosperity

Total Life Prosperity — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 03:10:01 +0000

Thanks! and you make a good point: color + bluntness = intimidation. That never crossed my mind. And for the record she was a sister from another mother…

By: Makiea

Makiea — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:34:58 +0000

Being a bitch that was good at what I did is what ultimately led to my demise…lol! I’ll definitely be copping this book tho. Great post! Maybe you could have used alternative choice words on declining travel but your color+bluntness=intimidation especially if your supervisor is a sister from a nother mother…it’s unfortunate but true…

By: Total Life Prosperity

Total Life Prosperity — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:34:42 +0000

That COULD be the case but I my thinking was I should be more direct with external clients vs. people I work with everyday…

By: storm

storm — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:21:57 +0000

Interesting. Could it be that they want you to be more direct or blunt in the office/with other co workers/take charge during meetings but not as direct towards clients??