Who told you that?

To give some context: This “Let’s Talk about Pep Show” is entertaining, but mildly disturbing. I admit I enjoy watching it, but it makes me kinda tired. I was tired before I started watching the show, but it breeds a whole ‘notha level of ‘let’s get it together ladies in me’.

I AM TIRED! Tired of hearing there are no good black men. Tired of women staying in unhappy, unhealthy, tiring relationships with their “piece” of a man. Tired of the media trying to tell ME that I won’t get married. I’m just tired.

A few years back, I decided to ignore the media, think counter culturally and decide that there were more men that I knew what to do with. What a great decision on my part ☺ I don’t remember what triggered it, but it was probably some “woe to the educated black women” article about not being able to find a man. At that moment I decided that I would stop believing the hype. I looked at “who” told me all of this negative crap and I decided to ignore it.  Thank God.

Black women, we must stop believing the statistics. They are just that—numbers. I love numbers, have loved them all of my life, but I don’t believe them. And here’s why.

The Numbers DO LIE!

Now, I refuse to believe some of the nasty, negative crap people say, or have said about me. THAT, makes some people mad. It makes them angry because it’s so much easier to tell someone who you think they are, but it’s much harder for them to find out who they are. It’s extremely liberating to declare to people, the world, and yourself, who you are. Again, most people don’t like this. But. I’ve found there is healing in truth. There’s pain there too…but the growth and the subsequent joy are well worth it.

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