The “Black” Church is the reason why Black Women are single
Every week there seems to be some media analysis concerning Black Women. Last week there was an article The Black Church: How Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely  that firmly suggests Black women to abandon Black churches …

Guest Blogger: making THE team
by Toni Childs
I was having a conversation the other day with a friend and in the midst of her boasting about her “team” and listening to me whine about my lack thereof…she objected and started listing those that are currently trying out but haven’t been …

Sometimes, my dear friend, Mookie Jones jokes around and gives me a pretty good saying…. One day he playfully uttered “You’re going to end up old, strong and alone if you don’t watch it”… This was probably in response to something I did that was out of the male/female gender role (like opening the door or paying for a bill or something, which totally annoys him). However, his sly utterance still sticks with me, and I sometimes ponder on it…I’m probably not going to be very popular with saying this thought, but “If you are single, that is because of the choices you have made, so stop the external blame game”….

…”He has to be 6′0 and above, perfect teeth, salary over 60k, oh yea love God, good in bed, be charming, loving, and a perfect fellow. You may not admit this out loud but I am sure you have fantasized about this non-existent, perfect man. However, it should just stay that….a fantasy! Nothing is wrong with dreaming but maybe if we curtailed that dream a bit to reality, I think heartache and confusion would cease in the world of dating and finding a life partner would seem more feasible. My friends say things about guys they meet like he’s too short, he doesn’t make enough money, I don’t like where he lives…etc. Instead ladies try asking where his head is? does he have a good heart? does he love God? does he want better? does he respect women?

In  previous posting You’ve Got Mail, I mentioned my mom sent me the book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey and I said I would post my own book review. A  month later I have yet to finish the book. The book is on the …